Your Ideal Online Dating Experience

I’ve rarely met women on dating apps; it’s just not my style, but I still use them.

I enjoy being on them because you never know who you will meet, connect with, or what will happen. You might just end up having a pleasant conversation with someone in your industry. A conversation may teach you something. You might meet someone who becomes a great friend, or you might meet someone with whom you have a relationship.

When it comes to online dating, however, the term “conversation” should be used with caution.

The majority of it is done via texting. Texting is not a conversation; it is a way to stay connected after a relationship has already formed, not to start a new one.

Making a Fantasy

I was corresponding with her. We apparently met before, I believe on another app.

We had never really connected because these apps don’t always connect. It is difficult to feel someone through texting or pictures.

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However, she stated that if I was interested in her photographs, she would like to meet with me. Pictures. This is the crux of the matter. I don’t get chemistry from pictures, and anyone who does is making up a story about chemistry.

You can’t feel anything, even attraction, just by looking at someone’s picture. And, to be honest, most people don’t look like their pictures anyway. Unfortunately, in online and app dating, people feel compelled to post pictures of themselves that are out of date and do not reflect the person they are now.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen pictures of women with long hair and short hair that look completely different. I’ve seen pictures of the same person when they were skinny, heavier, and I’m not sure where they are now. How can you be sure who she is at this point? Images cannot be used to form an opinion about someone.

This woman I was talking to on Bumble told me that if I liked her pictures, I should ask her out. I enjoyed her photographs. I’m going a little deeper than just trying to make a chemical story out of what I see in pictures.

Pictures and a few lines of text do not pique my interest in someone. I’m an adult.

It takes a lot to get me to meet someone, and it should for you as well.

However, if someone begins to show personality, spunk, that’s the person you want to meet.

I’ve met a lot of people through the internet, and most of the time, the story I made up from the pictures and words we exchanged doesn’t have the chemistry that I crave.

Because, in reality, nothing will ever happen unless you meet someone in person.

Texting can be misconstrued.

People can read into text and create an entire fantasy story. Your and their story.

The Excitement is in the Meeting

I can’t get excited about a text message from a stranger or a picture I saw, knowing that the majority of people don’t even look like their pictures. How many times have I told women that they should post recent photos with no angles? I’ve discussed the Women’s Online Dating Profile No-Nos. But, every day, I look online and see more angle shots and pictures that don’t represent who they are right now.

That’s just the way it is. It was amusing because the woman I was speaking with was desperate for someone to be enthusiastic about her. And I wrote to her, telling her that no one can be excited about anyone until they meet them.

A picture does not excite me. I can’t get excited about words on a screen; that isn’t romance, that isn’t how things work, that isn’t a relationship. When I meet someone new, I get excited, and it makes me happy.

 

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