I was thinking the other day that if I wasn’t dating or meeting women, I’d probably never text. Ever.
And I began to think for a moment. Do men text each other?
I read through all of my texts.
Do I really want to have a text conversation with my friend Tom? There could be four or five lines, but that’s it.
My other friends and I texted each other to ask each other questions.
Are you going to be available later?
Or, what do you think about this?
That’s all there is to it. But I never, ever engage in full-fledged actual conversation with men.
In fact, I don’t engage in text conversations with anyone except women.
So I started thinking and asking questions:
Do women text each other and engage in full-fledged text conversations?
And the answer is, indeed, yes.
I started asking all the women I know, and I said, hey, do you have a full-fledged text conversation with all your friends? And they all said yes, every time.
What does this imply?
Does this imply that women enjoy texting?
So, obviously, yes.
But does this mean that women prefer to have deeper or longer conversations with their friends in order to stay in touch with them more than men do?
The answer is unequivocally no.
I spend my entire day on the phone with my closest friends. Throughout the day, I pick up the phone and have 5, 10, 15-minute conversations with my friends.
Any day of the week, I’d rather talk to them than text them.
Why? Because it is more pleasurable.
I can dial a phone number, hear my friends’ voices, ask questions, and engage in a conversation. We encourage and counsel one another.
When I’m dating someone, I enjoy texting. I like it when I’m getting to know them and we’re keeping up with each other’s lives, but I don’t like full-blown, hour-and-a-half, two-hour text conversations. It just seems like a waste of time to me. The same conversation could have been had over the phone in 20 minutes.
And I’m finding that the only texting conversations I have are with women.
Despite this, women are the ones who complain that men do not call.
Interesting.
So I began by approaching some of my female friends. Do you ever call men back, I asked? Do you ever call your boyfriend? They text them the majority of the time.
Texting is unquestionably here to stay.
It is unquestionably a means of communication. But, as I previously stated, it’s just an opportunity to have a brief conversation with someone.
It’s a means to an end in order to have a real conversation. Otherwise, it’s a waste of time for me. And it’s difficult to keep track of six or seven different text conversations.
But perhaps I’m just old-fashioned. I was addicted to texting for a while because it was new to me.
Now, I’d rather talk on the phone. I love the voice, listening, and talking to each other.
I guess I’m just an old-fashioned guy. What else can I say?
