Before I tell you what our greatest fear is, I’m going to make the most raw, honest confession I’ve ever made.
You’re going to be popular with us.
We go, and we text you on one of those ridiculous apps like Bumble or Tinder.
And we’d like to like you.
Those of us who are more daring will call you and have a phone conversation with you. We sincerely wish to like you.
We’re sick of all the swiping, dating, flaking, and other unbelievable nonsense that comes with modern dating.
We’re all on board the relationship express.
In fact, the choo-choo whistle is already blowing. All aboard the dating locomotive!
Next stop, like-ville.
We sincerely wish to like you.
So, are you prepared for our greatest fear?
You don’t resemble your photograph!
Let me tell you something, and I don’t mean to sound egotistical or anything.
I am more attractive than my photographs.
I don’t dress up my photograph.
I don’t use angles to subtract years from my age.
I simply posted a nice picture of myself and let the chips fall where they may. I enjoy seeing the look of surprise on a woman’s face when I first meet her and she says, you’re better looking than your picture.
Our greatest fear is that you do not resemble your photograph.
When you arrive for your date, we look at you and think to ourselves, because that is the first thing that comes to mind. Again. How does this keep happening?
We even look for your worst picture and think, if she looks like this, we’ll be fine.
But, ladies, you’re like illusionists. You’re masters of angles, Photoshop, and wearing sunglasses in your photos, among other deceptive techniques.
I’m not saying this to be a jerk.
I’m telling you this so you don’t waste your time.
It isn’t because you aren’t attractive.
It’s just that when you’re an example to someone, they expected something else and got what you presented instead.
You see, you’re all stunning in your own unique way. My friend may not be attracted to the same people I am.
Tom, a friend of mine, isn’t interested in any of the women I recommend. He prefers them to be plumper.
A little more curvy.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Each man is drawn to something different. So, if you are who you are and post exactly what you look like, you will still get the same number of men to swipe and say yes.
You’ll still get the same number of men who want to date you and say yes. However, you will receive quality rather than phony b.s.
When you fake someone out, they get annoyed, you get annoyed, and the two of you get off the online dating app, trash it, and say it doesn’t work.
This slows down your own dating journey.
Even if you don’t look like your picture, what runs through my mind and that of every other male is God, I want to like you. We’ve been using religious terminology because we want you to look like your pictures.
We even give you a date time because we hope to become more attracted to you, but to be honest, it’s either there or it’s not.
Men can’t fake attraction, and neither can you.
Men will grow on you, but what about us? We have a strong visual sense. Maybe more than you are, not that you aren’t, but we are truly visual creatures. For you, you absolutely stunning, amazing woman, be who you are and demonstrate what you are all about. That way, you’ll get a good lead – someone who is excited and says yes.
I am overjoyed that she resembled her photograph.
