4 Major Reasons Why Online Dating and App Dating Do Not Work for You

1: Your Mentality

“Only good looking people succeed online,” I hear so many people say. Average people never succeed.”

Well, most people are “average looking,” if you think about it.

There are simply insufficient models and beef cakes to go around for everyone to date.

As a result, the majority of people have average appearances.

The majority of people are, well, overweight.

The majority of people are not perfect (but then again, nobody is).

So the number one reason you’re not meeting anyone is that you believe you’re not attractive, tall enough, or thin enough to succeed online.

And now everyone, men and women alike, want someone who is flawless.

That is the first error you make.

The second error is…

2: Your lack of initiative

It amazes me how many times I talk to a client, massive results” speech, and then they’ll continue with the same old low-effort mindset.
But think about it.

If you want a great job, you go out and talk to everyone you can think of in order to network and find the perfect job.

You do not go to apply for one job. You apply to hundreds of jobs. You interview nonstop until you find the job that is right for you.

And you don’t give up until you find a job you enjoy.

When it comes to online dating, however, people are willing to give it “the old try.”

They’ll look into online dating. They’ll experiment with app dating.

You only do it for one day. You send five emails and receive no responses.

So then, you quit.

Simply put, if you quit and do not expect massive results, it will not work.

I’ve been saying for years that if you’re not willing to take massive actions and achieve massive results, you’ll never succeed.

I apologize.

I’m sorry that you can’t just send out five emails and expect someone to respond.

You engage in the game of waiting.

I never have to wait. Every day, I use apps or go on online dating sites.

I’m swiping right now.

I’m texting two short responses in an attempt to elicit a response.

I’m sending out 10 to 15 e-mails per day because I know this isn’t a personal game, which brings us to number three.

3: You Take Everything So Personally

Stop being such a wimp.

Stop taking dating too seriously.

I don’t mind if no one responds to me. I don’t form an opinion based on someone’s profile or pictures that they’re the perfect person for me.

I give them the opportunity to respond. That is what life is all about if they choose not to.

They make a decision. But I don’t stop and I don’t give up like the rest of you.

I keep going because I know there’s a secret formula:

Massive action yielded massive results.

The more women I contact online, the more likely it is that someone will respond to me.

And when they do respond, I capitalize right away. I immediately respond via email and text.

That way, we can maintain the momentum, which leads us to number four.

4: You Do Not Maintain Momentum

Don’t let the momentum die.

Don’t engage in a game.

You finally got a response, respond back. Set a date with them and go out with them.

Spend no time on the phone. People, commit to the process.

People, if you commit to the process, it will work. It is always effective.

But it doesn’t work because you’re not taking massive action and producing massive results, and you’re taking everything so personally.

Trying something for a day or two does not work because if love were that simple, everyone would do it for a day or two, meet, and everything would work out.

So put on some thick skin and begin to open yourself up to massive action and massive results. And keep an eye on how much it changes for you.

If not, keep making excuses about why it doesn’t work.

Yes, it does. It is effective. All you have to do is commit.

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