Do you present a false image of yourself on online dating sites or dating apps?
Maybe you shave a few years off and justify it by saying, well, you want to be in a certain age range for search engines. Maybe you take angle shots of your face to remove a few years so you can’t tell how old you are.
Maybe you just take pictures of yourself and post them online, taking them from the waist up.
Maybe you used to call yourself athletic and trim… but you are no longer.
Perhaps you lie about your residence.
Maybe you’re one of those scumbags who is married but lies about it.
Welcome to the world of online dating, and the most common mistake people make.
When you lie about your identity, body type, age, and other details, you will waste not only your time, but also the time of others.
Every relationship that begins with deception is doomed.
I know it’s easy to say you’re 51 instead of 41, and you just did it because, well, you want to meet more people, and younger women or younger men are really attracted to you. You can come up with a great story about it, but still the other person (if they are a high vibrational human being) will think to themselves, what other lies is this person telling me?
What other lies can I anticipate in the future?
I know you want to lose weight, so you come in a little heavier.
You’ve done it so many times that it seems like every single date, well, stops and you need to go find a new date.
You’re the one-night stand.
When the man or woman does not want to kiss you at the end of a date, you are disappointed. You wonder why in the first hour of the date it’s so awkward.
Then you’ll both be able to unwind.
It’s awkward because the person sitting there is thinking to themselves, “I’m not attracted to this body type,” for the first hour of the date. You display photographs of yourself in physical shape. The person sitting across from you is in good physical condition. It’s the type of body they enjoy, the type of body they like, and the type of body they want.
You just wasted your time, his or her time, and your time at the end of the date. You basically go home and then continue to go and look for someone else. Perhaps there is someone out there who is fine with you being or appearing heavier than your pictures.
That is unacceptable to no one.
You’re squandering your time.
Here’s an unusual suggestion…
…you picture taker or picture changer who doesn’t look like your pictures.
Put your true identity on display.
You may receive fewer hits and/or matches, but the men and/or women who are attracted to your body type will appear wanting your body type.
Not everyone wants Kate Moss to be stick thin.
Or someone like Brad Pitt with abs.
There are all body types in the world, and the majority of people are overweight.
Really, if you show who you are, the man or woman who comes to meet and greet you will be excited because they already know what you look like because that’s the body type they prefer.
That is exactly what you must do.
As in, that’s exactly what you need to do right now.
Less dates, higher quality leads, showing up, and someone is looking forward to meeting you.
There will be a lot of second and third dates for you.
Stop telling lies. Don’t rationalize it by saying, “It’s okay because everyone else does it.”
It is never acceptable to lie about your identity.
